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IS ALL FAIR IN LOVE & WAR?

5/12/2016

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Is it fair to assume if martial artists spend so much time contemplating war, then love is going to come up eventually. ​

It’s natural to find ourselves attempting to merge our lives with mat time.  Yet, it always seems to become a tedious balancing act when it comes to mat time and matters of the heart. 
My Sifu once advised,
“Date someone in martial arts.”
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I’ve contemplated that statement, wondering if that really is the secret to a successful relationship.  As marital artists our equilibrium is naturally set to balance life and mat, but what happens when a third party becomes involved?   Haven’t we all heard the phrase,  

“You’re going to the dojo again?” ​

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Let's be honest, we've all been there and done that...

Dating someone in martial arts is an alluring concept.  I know multiple married couples that study together and have always viewed them as gold miners—the ones that struck it big.  But the grass is not always greener on the other side. 

I was visiting two of my married Kenpo friends; discussing sparring with them when I found out they never sparred together.  They practice techniques and forms together… but they didn’t spar.  They worried it would cause bad feelings and resentment between the two of them if one was either hit too hard or just right.  

​As a person that loves to spar, the idea of working techniques/forms and eliminating sparring sounded like hell to me; like building a relationship with someone and removing sex from the equation.

This entire time I had been day dreaming what it would be like to date a fellow martial artist—thinking how wonderful it would be to work out together and for someone to finally understand my passion for the art.
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Relationship goals... Or Urban Myth?

In reality it’s a naive concept.


No relationship is perfect and we tend to lose sight of what is important.  Finding a partner that supports us and respects us for who we are.  Every relationship is different and will have different needs.  If someone loves you for who you are (and you are a martial artist) then they should respect and love that part of you because it’s who you are. 

I’m no relationship expert but I am a martial artist and I hope my future partner recognizes from the sparring to Kenpo kisses (bruises) and the long mat hours are not only what I enjoy but they are making me a better person every day.

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J. R Diaz
5/12/2016 02:41:50 pm

The truth of the matter Kenpo girl is that to succeed in life, martial arts, dating, love, bruises, pain, or whatever else comes from learning any art one studies will require for that person to want know what he/she wants to gain from it all. I must say put ur needs first and once u find that elusive special ninja person ur looking for then u will have reached ur level of satisfaction kinda like getting a new belt promotion. It's feels right, it feels great wearing the new rank and to share it with that person will be just that more special.

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Flying Anne link
11/30/2020 05:11:46 pm

Grateeful for sharing this

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    Jesalyn Mae Harper

    Hello my name is Jesalyn.  I'm a divorced single mom and a karate addict...
    I am currently a 1st Brown belt in American Kenpo and a Junior Instructor at Double Dragon Kenpo Karate under JR Diaz, I am part of the Parker/Planas Lineage and study Karbaroan Eskrima with JR Diaz, under Guro Ed Planas

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